Wednesday, July 1, 2015


I could go on and on with the titles of movies and plays that could work for this  hair blog..Hair, Roots, 50 Shades of Grey, ha! 

Weekly hair update. I was wrong last week when I said that it was week 10 without hair is actually week 10.  I did a side by side to show the difference in the roots so far. I wear my  hair pulled back in a head band or up with a hair clip a lot of the time so for me it's not super noticeable -but then again I'm a person that doesn't look at or notice the back of my hair either so maybe everyone else is noticing and just not mentioning my grey roots. 

Vic and I went to church last Sunday. The church has a big screen up front that shows the words to the songs and at one point a video take from the back of the church pointed at the congregation, I was shocked when I noticed myself up on the big screen and how long my hair is from the back! 

More pictures from the last week:

Monday, June 29, 2015

What an amazing year so far! 6 months in.

As half the year comes to an end I thought it would be a good time to do an update on what's been happening in my world.

My nephew got married :) Congratulations Brandon and Mary!
Same Sex Marriage become legal in Florida!
Vic and I got engaged!

Vic and I went to Orlando for a long weekend to spend some time with her friends from California. I hope this becomes and annual thing...Love them like family !

Vic and I Got Married!
We kept Devon (my great nephew) over night for the first time. He was 7 months old.

Booked our honeymoon flights to Paris!

Went to Springfield Mo for my annual girls weekend with my friends from grade school/high school years.

Supreme Court Ruling Same Sex Marriage a right nationwide!

What an amazing year so far! I am going into the second half feeling very blessed.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

50 Shades of Grey

Before you get all excited..this blog isn't going to be about the movie or the books.
I made a pretty big decision last week.
I am going to stop coloring my hair and go natural. The last time I  had my grey touched up was April 22 2015  so we are going on about 10 weeks now with no color.   I don't have the skunk thing going on yet, I took some pictures this morning to see how much is showing right now.

Not so bad.   I've researched youtube and the Internet and found tons of videos/blogs about this very subject. Who knew going grey and giving up hair color was a thing? I feel even better about my decision hearing about how empowering it has made other women feel.

The first person I told was my mom. I was all ready for her to give her opinion..she has not been shy over the years to tell me about my hair being too blonde, too red, too brassy etc. so I  figured I would test out my level of commitment by seeing what mom would say. Shockingly she was very supportive! (and I think a bit envious )

Then I emailed Vic. support! Her only request was that she hoped I wouldn't cut it off. Since I'm enjoying my longer locks, I don't think this request will be hard to fulfill.
Next came my childhood but I got the feeling that none of them would even think of doing this and just chalked it up to me being weird. :)

I have not told my dear friend Heide, that has done my hair for nearly 30 years. I am most nervous about this conversation even thou I'm sure she can give me the best advice on how to go about this.  She is having a pretty upsetting life event right now so I don't want to bother her with this but will talk to her soon I'm sure. (sooner if she sees this blog lol)

I've been looking at wigs , Silver/Grey wigs became very trendy in 2014..who knew! Also there is hair chalk...I may just try some of these things...and when/if I do of course I'll share it with y'all.

For the people wanting to know "why". I could say it is to save money...I spend about $100 every  6 weeks or so coloring my  hair.  But that isn't why.
I could say it's because of not wanting to put the chemicals on my hair...going green , save the planet and all of that. It's not why, but I do appreciate those things.
I don't have one reason. I do like the idea of being my authentic self . I like the idea of not having to worry about getting to the hair dresser every six weeks (but I will probably still go so I can see Heide and catch up).

Life is an adventure and I am enjoying every turn!

Wednesday, May 6, 2015


It's no secret that my sister is an addict. It's something I've had in my life since she was a  teenager. Going from drug programs to stints in  jail. There were years with her being a functioning addict but I knew better than to try and have a conversation after dark. Her voice would grow louder, her tone more cutting, interrupting and talking over me if it were on the phone, in person she was clingy and too close or angry and running away.

The worst for me was never knowing what to expect. Cross that's now knowing what to expect and never being proved wrong.

As a teenager there was hope that she would out grow her bad behaviors. When she became a mother there was that hope again.and again as she became a grandmother..Always trying to look for the positive and hope she'd "wake up" and be normal one day. The curse of my rose colored glasses.

We've had years that we talked almost every day and years that our conversations were scattered from weeks to months between conversation. I think she has always known that push come to shove I would be there for her. Foolishly I thought the same about her. I saw how wrong I was when our father died.

I think what makes me the most angry (besides everything) is that she pushes people away, drinks and keeps us out of her thoughts. It doesn't bother her that no one calls, or visits or invites her to family things because she has pushed those feelings away with drinking. My dad once explained to me that she will call and wreck havoc on our worlds with the latest crisis and we will be up all night thinking of ways to help her , while she is getting her drink on and sleeping only to not remember any of it the next day while we wake up sleep deprived and still worrying about her.

It's been a few weeks now since she has called, in the middle of the night with a drunken crisis. I have not called her to check in, she has not called me. I don't even know if she remembers the call. I still worry when I hear the police helicopters over head, and still check  the arrest reports from time to time but my worry as she's gotten older is that she will have a stroke or drink herself to death. I think her boyfriend would call us but I really don't know. I'm not sure what I'd do if i got that call.

I wish I had the ability to just put her out of my mind and not think or worry so much about the life she is wasting. I have always had such a strong bond with her...I could sense when things were  wrong, she often sounded amazed when I'd call just when she needed me. I've tried to tone those feelings down and not tune in but with doing that I feel a loss.

Monday, April 20, 2015


April 20. 20 things I'm looking forward to

1. Our Honeymoon in Paris! (October)
2. My girls weekend in Missouri next month
3. My oldest and newest friends from Missouri coming in November.
4. Shopping for said Paris trip.
5. Getting these dang bangs cut this week.
6. Upcoming beach days
7. the excitement that comes with hurricane season
8. my nieces wedding in December
9. watching my great niece and nephew reach new mile stones
10. Sea turtle season (starts May 1)
11. Big Brother season 17!
12. Seeing the scales dip and joining Onederland again
13. Walking with Vic to get in better shape for Paris
14. Spending more time with my local friends.
15. Date nights
16. New flooring for the bedroom.
17. More drum circles
18. getting back in the groove on my FBA and Ebay businesses
19. getting the AC fixed in the truck.
20. making more videos /taking more pictures

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

TV Time ..Reality Style of course

It's been a while since I've done a reality recap but that doesn't mean that I have not been glued to the TV watching my favorite reality dramas.

Last night Real Housewives of New York started up again. I am so happy that Bethenny is back , and just as happy that Aviva is NOT.   I must say , I had forgotten how fast Bethenny talks. Just listening to her sometimes makes me worn out. Ramona doesn't seem as crazy this season, but in all fairness it has only been ONE episode that I've seen.  Sonja ....just sad. More to come on that one as more episodes air.

Another new reality show we've been watching is Married at First Sight  on FYI. I hope some of these marriages work out and others (Ryan and Jacyln) I just have no words. I feel sorry for Ryan and wonder what his thoughts were during these first few episodes.   This is the second season I believe.

And, then there is Newlyweds the first year on Bravo.  Mostly Vic and I just look at each other and are so happy that we have each other. All of these relationships this season seem so messed up. I wanted to see a positive lesbian couple but it appears that won't be happening this season.

Oh , I almost forgot about one. I only watched the first episode because it was filmed in Paris and I wanted to see the landscaping. Find my first love , also on FYI.  The girl looking for her first love from college in Paris...happy ending but it would freak me out to the extent she went to find this guy. If it were a man looking for a woman I'm pretty sure they could get him on some stalking laws being broken.  I also wonder how it would have turned out had he been married with a family.